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wife's death & health issues, details for a pinned toot because it comes up often enough. 

Kelli was diagnosed with FSGS when she was in 3rd grade. It's a rare disease that basically makes your kidneys fall apart. Most/all of her other issues stem from that.

When I met her, she was on the tail end of her 2nd transplant. She lost it before we were married. She was nervous on our wedding day because she had to come from dialysis to the church and didn't want to get blood on her dress. (continued..)

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If you're wondering why I've started using hashtags on here in spite of them not working too great over federation, it's for two reasons:

1. It's an easy way for me to organize my own toots. Hashtags work just fine when not crossing instance boundaries, and I can find all of my education news toots with a single click now.

2. My crossposter used to post all of my public toots onto my nearly abandoned Twitter account, but today I narrowed it down to a handful of hashtags.

This may change.

widower, data brokers 

Today's physical mail included a "Motor Vehicle Notification" addressed to my wife (no mention of my own name at all) for a car I purchased 2 years after she died.

So there's that.

The word "trigger" refers to something which sets off memories of past trauma in individuals with PTSD and other similar psychological conditions, resulting in panic attacks or other physiological stress responses.

The word "trigger" does NOT mean something which makes someone a little bit angry.

How are there people who still aren't understanding this very basic concept??


30 minutes on the under the desk cycling machine.

Legs wobbly and numb.

instance block recommendation, uspol adjacent 

brighteon dot social. It ought to be reasonably obvious why, seeing as how they're trying to market themselves as "The Pro-Liberty Social Network."

"The tyranny of Big Tech is now on full display in America as Twitter has unleashed an army of so-called “fact-checkers” (i.e. left-wing propagandists) to place fact-check labels on the tweets of President Trump."

Uh huh. Sure.

Aaaand they have an Alex Jones account as if all the rest wasn't bad enough:

instance block recommendation, long-ish (lots of links), mentions of sexual harassment & transmisia

single user instance for flussence, who

- defended sexual harassment

- misgenders people while blatantly lying about them

- is having some truly choice takes about how to deal with "bad apples" on fedi

This is absolutely abyssmal behavior and trying to throw shade at hellsite while acting like *this* is honestly pathetic.

(The lack of personal pronouns is a big part of why I like Japanese. And I wonder if the excessively gendered language might be part of why I don't seem to get on with French.)

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This post brought to you by that one enby who kinda dislikes using pronouns and tends to try and avoid them, due to preferences changing from time to time.

They/them is normally my preference.
I'm usually ok with she/her.
He/him is sometimes acceptable.
I don't know how I feel about any others.

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Try to remember that some people have a more complicated relationship with pronouns than you do.

Encouraging people in give pronouns in their bio is nice, but try not to be so heavy handed. It's rude to insist.

Instead, consider normalising the use of they/them for anyone who doesn't explicitly state their pronouns.


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Seeing as it's #InternationalPronounsDay, I'd like to remind you that singular they/them are genderless pronouns by definition. These do not refer exclusively to any nonbinary gender identities, and do not belong to nonbinary people.

They/them can be used for anyone and everyone.

If you don't know what someone's preferred pronouns are, using they/them is always a gramatically correct choice, because these words refer simply to "this one person"


27 minutes on the under the desk cycler thingie that's been collecting dust since June.

... my legs hurt.

Patreon sticker batch one! Patrons $5 and over will get this file as a hi-res printable, $10 and over as physical stickers

Today my Display port to HDMI adapter arrived.

I have 4 monitors now.

Granted most of them are older than my students, but they work.

Does it count as exercise if I have to turn my head a full 180 degrees to see all my open windows?

Went from "Inbox 200" to "Inbox 35" in one day, which of course means that I feel like I got no real work done at all.

Ignore that grading, lesson planning, and ... oh, yeah, ... teaching happened today. Sifting through emails siphoned away all of that enjoyment and sense of accomplishment.

How does one consume a cough drop without crunching it?

Can it be done?

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